mamaw:My husband and I are in desperate need of help in Citrus County Florida, a tragedy is going to occur if someone does not intervene on behalf of my 2 grandchildren who the system in this state has totally and without regard to their best interests has allowed them to be abused, neglected and emotionally scarred forever at the hands of their mentally ill, drug addicted, narcissitic mother, please wont someone help us?
I too live in Florida and am quite angry at how the state so call defends the children and what is in their best interest. My sister has the same problem of defending her children from her ex and the father of the children. They have abused these kids and he has 6 DCF reports on him and they do nothing. The court says that what is best for the children is to have both parents in their life, but do not care, or seem to care, how the other parent could be ruining their lives. I can understand how you feel. I am sorry to hear you and your husband have to go through this and nothing can be done.
I will tell you what seems to be helping my sister's case. First of all, do the children see the other parent? Is that your son? Can your son get the court to appoint a counselor for the kids? I am sure the mother will fight it as my ex brother-in-law did, but the court finally ordered counseling and he has no say so now. If your son can get a lawyer and tell him or her that his children are emotionally having trouble but that the mother doesn't want them to go to counseling, he or she makes a motion before a judge. The judge will order counseling, if there was a divorce, or other circumstances in the best interest for the kids. If this can be done, the kids will talk to the counselor and when the kids have talked enough of what is happening at mom's, you bring her to court again to stop visitation or change custody. The court could even give custody to grandparents, if parents can't care for their kids. I don't know the details, but this is what is finally working for my sister. The children unfortunately have to support until this is done properly. You say that the mother is a drug addict. Did you report your findings to DCF? They will show up unannounced and do get a urine test from the mother. My brother in law on my husband's side had to do this to take his child away from his girlfriend. He in turn handed his kid to my mother in law who now after caring for the child for 5 years, wanted to terminate his parental rights and adopt her. She suceeded and has adopted her, but the dad gets once a month visitation at our house. It has to be supervised. He is an alcoholic, recovering one, also and has violence in the past. That is how he lost his parental rights to her.
I could tell you more, but need more details if you don't mind.